tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8418939.post1375702072586497497..comments2023-09-23T04:02:58.985-04:00Comments on May Day Cafe: Another Pregnancy BlogNerissa Nieldshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07681807422024958132noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8418939.post-56536729862719281212010-07-29T12:20:36.746-04:002010-07-29T12:20:36.746-04:00That's the reality of pregnancy, its somewhat ...That's the reality of pregnancy, its somewhat uncomfortable at first, but wait everything's gonna be beautiful once you have that angel in your arms. In my case, some <a href="http://www.morningsicknessfix.com/morning-sickness-treatment/" rel="nofollow">morning sickness cure</a> helped me go through pregnancy.ellie24https://www.blogger.com/profile/02254492919355591121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8418939.post-68469273862770264292008-05-13T14:18:00.000-04:002008-05-13T14:18:00.000-04:00Hi There-I'm a big fan of your music but my enthus...Hi There-<BR/><BR/>I'm a big fan of your music but my enthusiasm pales in comparison to that of my three year old son. In fact he loves you children's music so much that he now picks out your voices when we listen to your grown-up CD's."Mom! I think that is the Nield's singing!" He will tell me which of you is singing at any given moment, which we find very cute, but that's not why I'm writing. I had a similar moment when I discovered I was having a baby boy, more fear than disappointment, but coming from the same place. It feels like an enormous responsibility raising any child, but raising a boy who is free from all the unconstructive boy stuff in our culture felt like an almost insurmountable task. Now, three years later, I can honestly say that if I was pregnant again I'd be hoping for another son. He has taught me an enormous amount already, and I feel like in honoring who he is we are raising someone who will become a really, really good man. Not every boy becomes the shooting, screaming, fighting kid we see so many examples of. My son has a kind and gentle spirit and is pretty free (for now)of gender specific ideas. I fear the next ten years, when he will be up against peers who tease him for his love of pink, or when he may deal with bullies who take advantage of his sweet nature. On days when the fear feels overwhelming I remind myself that his powerful presence in this world may become part of the change we need. Congratulations on your news, it is truly wonderful for a boy to be brought into a family like yours.Ali Wicks-Limhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14593070298020275062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8418939.post-11346737940446023402008-05-11T20:49:00.000-04:002008-05-11T20:49:00.000-04:00Hey Nerissa,I am one of the "moms" you met during ...Hey Nerissa,<BR/><BR/>I am one of the "moms" you met during the CDH Mom groups when Lila was a newborn. I am pregnant with baby #2 as well and we found out it is a girl, and our first child was a boy, Ben. SO, if you have any need for boy clothes, I have PLENTY that we won't be using anymore. I agree with you about not buying clothes, I'd rather by consignment or have hand-me-downs for my kiddos. Seriously, let me know, we live in Florence! <BR/>I wish you joy throughout the rest of your pregnancy & an easy birthing experience!<BR/>Amy H. avalego2003@yahoo.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8418939.post-36491960917084954882008-05-01T02:10:00.000-04:002008-05-01T02:10:00.000-04:00Hi Nerissa,Congratulations on your new man!You met...Hi Nerissa,<BR/><BR/>Congratulations on your new man!<BR/><BR/>You met me (a version of me?) when I was 19 at the Winnipeg Folk Festival. I was quite star struck and sure I made a fool of myself...<BR/><BR/>Anyways, I just want to let you know what an amazing influence your music has been on me over the years. I just want to thank you.<BR/><BR/>My father passed away unexpectedly last week. I held a memorial for him on Sunday and sang an adapted version of "All My Pretty Horses".(although I butchered the guitar I was shaking quite violently) <BR/><BR/>That was actually the last song that he heard me sing, at his bedside. Though he was in a coma he seemed to respond to my voice. And even my husband said when I sang your song his heart rate increased.<BR/><BR/>I just want you to know that the Nields have been an inspiration to me over the years, and one of the last things my father heard was your words. Beautiful words. I just can't thank you enough for writing the one thing I could think to sing after I entered his room, not knowing it would be the last time, but knowing that shortly he would be departing the earth.<BR/><BR/>I wish you all the best in the future and hope that one day I can use my own words to tell the story of my life. Thank you for hekping me.<BR/><BR/>Love,<BR/>VickiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8418939.post-552834505181096642008-04-29T14:27:00.000-04:002008-04-29T14:27:00.000-04:00Nerissa, I went through the exact same moment of d...Nerissa, I went through the exact same moment of disappointment (plus PANIC) when I found out I was having a boy. Isn't that funny how we sort of fear what we don't know, or what we think we know? All I could think of that day was frat parties... boys and frat parties and drinking and doing stupid things and OH MY GOD I CAN'T HAVE A BOY. But now I'm so thrilled to have this little boy around.<BR/><BR/>Congrats on your upcoming family addition!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8418939.post-38060773756991299462008-04-23T11:30:00.000-04:002008-04-23T11:30:00.000-04:00I thought of the Ghandi quote about being the chan...I thought of the Ghandi quote about being the change you wish to see in the world after reading your blog. We must raise our sons to be the brothers, husbands, sons and friends that will be (slightly less than) half the world.<BR/>I was so sure that my first child would be a daughter. I knew how to parent a daughter but a son? Sure, I have 6 brothers but they're all older and well, a bit alien! <BR/>We had names for a boy (Ben) and girl (Sarah) but the nursery was Sarah's room. About 2 weeks afer Ben was born, the room finally became Ben's! And what an amazing boy/man he is! As a little guy, the happiest, most loving being you could imagine. As a young man, someone that makes me well up with pride each time I talk (or more likely IM since he's at college) to him. <BR/>To be clear, Ben has a younger sister Kate that I wouldn't trade for the world. We'd decided during my second labor that this child would be the last regardless of gender but I hate to think how much I would have lost if I hadn't had a daughter too.<BR/>But the best part of having one of each is how much both daughter and son learn about the world from each other. Kate gets disgusted with certain adolescent female treatment of boyfriends because she sees so directly their impact on her brother and his friends. Ben is a better friend to all the women in his world because his first two close friends were his sister and his mom.<BR/>Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy (you will look back with nostalgia, really!) and best wishes with your family!<BR/>Meg in VTAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com